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International Family Day 2010 – Impact of Migration on Families

Posted by peacedevelopmentnetwork on May 30, 2010

‘What does it feel like to be a migrant or growing up in a migrant family? The impact of migration on families was the theme for the United Nations International Day of Families 2010 that was commemorated around the world by many chapters of the Universal Peace Federation. In Bromley, near London, several people who either were migrants or who are from migrant families, spoke on fairly similar themes about their experiences.’

‘I hate to see wasted talent.’ Was the first comment of Sheridan Mangal. He went to explain that he mentors 6 young boys from disadvantaged backgrounds from ethnic minorities in the UK. His motivation for this came from his father and mother who came from the Caribbean to the UK in the early 1950’s. They came for the economic opportunity with the attitude that the UK as the motherland was doing them a favour. It was a difficult course for them as a couple and later us as a whole family because they were people with talent and willing to work hard. Soon they were faced with resentment and bitterness from the indigenous workers as they were given greater responsibilities.

His house was always crowded with family members who followed them to the UK. His parents helped many close relatives to establish themselves in the UK. This led to some tensions as some paid rent regularly but others did not. His parent’s attitude was to keep their heads down and work hard. They encouraged him to do the same and try to get a Government job. However, he grew up here mixing with British children who were encouraged to reach for the stars. He did not understand why he should keep his head down and did not feel that the UK was doing him a favour. He saw that his parents had made an immense contribution through taxes and later by employing others.

Rohema Miah was one of six children who grew up in the UK. Their father is from Bangladesh and their mother is Welsh. Their father did not return to Bangladesh for 42 years but sent money back to support the family. The main route for Bangladeshis in the UK is through restaurant ownership. This has contributed £1.2bn per year to the British economy.

She added that their parents never imposed a religion on them. They were allowed to make their own choice and despite making different choices they have remained close as brothers and sisters.

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One Response to “International Family Day 2010 – Impact of Migration on Families”

  1. Azhar Uddin Ahmad said

    The Family

    The home is the unit of human society. The sum total of human happiness under ordinary circumstances is determined by the happiness which prevails in the home, and the stability of the home is an index of the stability of the society and of its civilisation.

    The last few decades, however, materialism weakened the controlling force of religion and led to loose ideas about the relationship between the sexes. The result is that many societies now incline to ‘free love’, and marriage is discarded, because it entails certain responsibilities on the two partners who are required to build up the home. ‘Free love’makes each of the mates selfish, because while the male and the female become each other’s partners in pleasure, each is free to leave the other uncared any moment he or she desires to do so. This may prevent the partners to develop a long-time relationship, a mutual home, a family with children, etc.

    Mutual love between husband and wife a love based not no momentary passion but on a life-long connection and the consequent parental love for the offspring, leads to a very high development of the feeling of love of man for man. The home is in fact the first training ground of love and service. Here a man finds real pleasure in suffering for the sake of others, and the sense of service is then gradually developed and broadened.

    Marriage is thus regarded by Islam as a means to the moral uplift of man, a means for the development of those feelings of love and service which are the pride of humanity. Hence, according to the social code of Islam, marriage is the normal condition in which every adult man and woman ought to live.

    Upbringing.

    The very first years of every individual s life, that is, its childhood, is spent in the family. Children all over the world get the earliest and the most fundamental lessons in socialization and civilization in the family. Hence, parents have a big responsibility in guiding their children. They have an ideal position, and if they want to be trusted and respected, they should not advise their children to do certain things or refrain from other things, while they cannot keep to the rules themselves. The Quran says in 61:2-3: O you who believe, why say you that which you do not? It is most hateful in the sight of Allah that you say that which you do not.

    Regarding upbringing, the Quran says in 17:31: And kill not your children for fear of poverty We provide for them and for you. Surely the killing of them is a great wrong.

    Killing of children here means not giving them proper education and upbringing, being treated as spiritual death. For example, stimulating the children only in worldly matters and not paying attention to spiritual and moral values. Upbringing of children therefore is one of the great trials of man, as we read in Quran 8:28: And know that your wealth and your children are a temptation, and that Allah is He with Whom there is a mighty reward.

    Children growing up in a ‘normal’ home environment, will learn from the different characters of their mother and their father and so develop their own character. To develop and build something a home, long-term love and affection, children with good character, etc. requires dedication, and this can only be achieved in a long-term relationship with certain safeguards (a marriage contract) which will encourage partners to stay together as long as possible, even in time of hardships.

    May the International Day of the Family be a good occasion for all of us to emphasize the importance of the family, and to make good resolutions to fulfil the main goals of the family, which are among others love and compassion amongst family members, keeping our chastity, and a sound, well-balanced upbringing of our children in all aspects of their lives. Ameen!

    “Our Lord, grant us in our wives and our offspring the joy of our eyes, and make us leaders for those who guard against evil.” (Quran, 25:74)

    Thanks

    Azhar Uddin Ahmad
    azharmian342@hotmail.com
    (44)07 838 145 446

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